To love is to trust

The marriages of most of our parent's have been arranged. Love marriages, were not so common back then. How did they manage to stay loyal for so long without even being in love with the person? We tend to judge more, have more doubts on each others loyalty and perhaps break ups are so common than ever. Out true love lasts for couple of months. We have forgotten that even after being in relationship with someone we still have the independence to go out for a meal with a colleague of opposite gender, take a ride on their two wheeler, click a picture together, share a conversation, visit each others residence and have some good time. Why do we have so many doubts? Why do we even think that it is necessary to have sex with the person with whom we have gone out for a meal or shared a ride in their pillion? Why do we even think think that it is necessary to have sex with everyone? Has time changed or our mentality has degraded. Perhaps we are misinterpreting independence or we haven't learned to trust anyone. If you have been in love with someone than how can you not trust that person? Is trust not a part of love. Or we have been so decorated by bills and EMI's that we know to trust only when a bond is attached and that too duly signed in under legal jurisdiction. I have seen people for being together for years and then approaching counsellors and detectives to check on their partner. Aren't we spreading hatred? How could our parents have no doubt on each other? How could they be in love and not say it by words everyday but prove it by their actions? We must learn something from the ear that just passed by. They would define love better to us. They have known to trust and also to respect each others trust and stayed away from being heartbroken for always. Why aren't our parents so bothered that if each of them had anyone special during their past life? Are we suppose to call ourselves modern after we fight over the past issues so much  that we end up spoiling our present. Perhaps our generation has learnt only to click good pictures, spend a lot to pretend being in love, spend extravagantly to show their love and post pictures only to make others jealous. We have also deteriorated ourselves to a whole new level. The futures of tomorrow believe in proving love by sending nudes. God bless the lust addict trust deficit generation. 

Allure of Marriage

An elderly man was disturbed by his neighbours compalints of a married life and he often got offended when recently married couples often cracked jokes that that 'happily married' was an irony. He called a few couples one evening and he asked any lady to volunteer for a small game.

 

 

 

"Write the names of twenty five near and dear ones in your life?" he asked the lady pointing the board.

 

The lady got astonished and she looked at the man. The man insisted her to continue. She wrote the names of her husband, her child, her parents, her in-laws, her friends and few of her close relatives. In no time her list of twenty five got filled on the white board.

 

The man read the entire list and asked her to remove five names, She removed a few relatives. The man again insisted to remove five more names. She removed a couple of her friends. When asked for the third time, she removed the names of few more friends. The final list contained six names which had the names of her parents, her in - laws, her husband and child. The man now asked to remove three names, which left the lady in despair. He reminded her it was just a game. She omitted the names of her in - laws and her Dad. The only three names in the board contained the names of her husband, child and her mother. The man now asked her to remove one more name. She left the game. He insisted her and reminded her about the veritability that it was just a mere game. She stepped forward unwillingly in the saturated silence of the entire room and unwillingly rubbed her mother's name. She was left with a board full of two mere names that held her whole world. The entire room of compalining youths was now left with silent sympatheies and realizations. The man broke all went to test the extreme endurance and now asked her to omit the final name. She broke down like never before. She forgot the game and repeatedly said that it was impossible. When insisted again and again, she rubbed her child's name.

 

"Now you all know the game", the man said and he helped the girl to her seat and asked her to calm down.

 

The irony of a happily married life was now turned in to deference. The man gladly remembered his dead wife.

The Dilemma at 32-33

"When are you getting married?" asked a common friend when they were sitting at a restaurant.

They stared at each other. Finally they both ended up saying "Don't Know."

A week prior to that day.

"Are you my girlfriend?" asked the confused boy.

"Even if I say that I am your girlfriend, it won't make any difference."

"Then what would you reply if someone asks your relationship status?"

"I won't reply at all. I will let them make it out from my smile" the girl replied.

"I don't know what to say."

"You see you are younger to me."

"We aren't the only couple where the female is elder to the male. There are many like us. In fact the number is increasing day by day", replied the boy confidently.

"You are 23 now and I am 24. When do you have plans to get married?"

"You see I have a lot of things in my life to do. After I complete my masters I have to work hard enough to support my family. In these prime years of my life I also aim to establish business. I can't aim to get married before 32."

"I will be 33 by then."

"Yeah."

"Do you think my family members will allow me to wait?"

"When do your family members want you get married?"

"They will wait for a few years after my masters is complete. They shall give me all chances to excel in my career but they would really be disheartened if I want to wait after 28."

"I can't get married before 32."

"When you will be 32, I shall be 33. You see there is the problem."

"Isn't there any solution?" asked the guy.

"If you have anything in mind, then you can suggest."

"I am confused sweet heart."

"You see we both belong to different tribes. There shall be many hesitations from my family members, but since my father is supportive he shall allow that, but I am sure he won't allow me to wait till 33 to get married."

"What should we do now?"

"Let us not be together" the girl replied. Although she said it, she didn't mean it literally.

"Are you out of your mind?"

"Then you suggest a way out."

"You see let us be together till we can and lets see what happens next."

"We are together but we have no chances of commitment. We know that we are never getting married and yet we take chances to live together. We are bounded only by little ray of hope."

"Perhaps this was the most serious conversation among us till date", said the guy.

"Please don't talk anything about relationships and commitment anymore. It isn't so easy for me."