Pre-Marital Sex

Is it wrong to make love with a person whom we love without the social acclamation of marriage and is it right to have coitus with a stranger on the first night of marriage itself? The later; this happens in the arranged marriage culture which is still prevalent in some Asian countries. Is the social acclamation of being married so damn necessary to make love? Is pre-marital sex a sin?

Marriage is defined as a process of unification of two souls. To be precise, marriage is the process only to socially recognize the process of unification. Sex is process of unification of two souls. Obviously one individual won’t surrender the most beautiful moment of his/her life to another individual without any attachment. Pre-marital sex is initiation of the process of unification that shall later be socially recognized with knots and oaths. Pre-marital sex doesn't involve deceiving someone. It involves on a mutual agreement of two souls to practice something natural with their body parts. Marriage isn’t something that will change the spell of sex from sin to something very pious. Marriage is just some spells made by a priest or a known man that notifies our social unification.

A person has nothing to do with age to get ready to involve in the process of coitus. It is just that the person should be mentally ready and consensual. Waiting until marriage to have sex is a cultural phenomenon that had been carried on from time unknown without any acceptable base. We talk of gender equality on one hand and condemn pre-marital sex on the other hand. Pre-marital sex is respecting individual’s thoughts and actions.

There are other issues which we should be more concerned of than pre-marital sex. An individual shouldn't ask his partner if she had made love with somebody else before marriage. The question should be whether she had taken the perfect precaution as and when she made love before marriage.

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Love with a Prostitute

My uncle has been associated with transport business. I am familiar with many of his drivers and helpers. I have seen a few times one of his driver being isolated by the rest of the group. I never felt to inquire the reason why. Every time when I wasn't with my dad and I had to be dropped to Guwahati I hoped into one of  his truck which was scheduled towards Guwahati. I managed to save a few bucks of my pocket money and also enjoyed a good conversation with the driver & helper. 

It was one day when I had to come Guwahati and the truck that was scheduled towards Guwahati was to be driven by the driver that had been isolated by the group. I got up into the truck and their wasn't any helper too on that day. I thought the reason for isolating the driver was his introversion. I made myself comfortable in the helpers seat.

Surprisingly just after few minutes of starting the journey the driver started the conversation. He introduced himself as Madan Barua. The hi-hello session began and we started talking. He wasn't an introvert at all. After talking for a few minutes I asked him why did he chose to stay away from the group of the rest drivers and helpers. He said it was not he but the rest of the people who had decided not to talk to him. On further inquiring I found out that since he married a sex-worker he was separated from the group.

I insisted on knowing a little more about his marriage. He giggled and started. He worked as a helper ever since he was a seventeen year old lad. After working for a few months he started to learn driving. He got his professional truck driver license when he was 19. As a driver he got introduced to bumpy roads, late night driving, alcohol and brothels. He had been to numerous brothels. He met a girl in one of the brothels when he was 22. She was a year elder to him. He couldn't make himself feel comfortable after sex. He visited her again. Next time he didn't have sex. He talked with her the entire night. He visited her few more times and later he discovered he had fallen in love with her. He proposed her and she agreed. They got married in a temple.

He continued the conversation. He said that he didn't believe in seeking a virgin girl to get married. He always wanted a lady who could understand him.

Those words didn't seem like they came out of a truck drivers heart. All I got to learn in that 64 Km ride from Mr. Barua is that, 'Maturity is beyond profession and love is beyond the purity of the hymen'.

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Virginity: The Character Parameter

Virginity: The Character Parameter

Doesn't it make a section of men feel retard to judge a beautiful soul based on her hymen? Is it machismo to cheat a girl, dump her, move on and marry another? What shall happen to the girl? Apart from a psychological break down because of break up and instead of a support, she finds a man who refuses to be with her after he finds out that she went along with someone else. Is it the story of two men showing their machismo or the prevalence of a retarded uncultured society?

Instead of blaming her for sleeping with another man why can't he step ahead and try to act matured while trying to understand her. A man who judges a girl on her virginity has always found love in the vagina. A man who can't stand the fact that his wife had slept with someone else has  no right to even ask a girl out for a date. Even if the man hasn't even been with anyone else before he shouldn't  react if his partner isn't a virgin and instead he should try to be supportive to the person who had been a victim of false promises.

What if a retarded uncultured finds out that there was no blood spill on his first night? Does that mean that his partner isn't a virgin? Couldn't he think a little matured that she might be adventurous and sporty and could have been associated with cycling, horse riding or swimming? Or on the contrary what if another retarded uncultured finds out blood spill on his first night? Should he cherish his achievement of finding someone virgin or should he read a little about hymenorrhaphy?

Instead of developing our notion for someone based on her virginity we must try to respect her for what she is from her inside. Virginity isn't any character parameter. It is simply ignorance and prevalence of an uncultured society.

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Love With a Prostitute